It's been a rather long time since I've written anything...which, to be honest, bothers me a little bit. I feel like a lot of the time, I don't ever see things through. But I want to start. Even if I write about nothing, or my personal life, or some vague, lame topic that nobody cares about, I can still feel good knowing I wrote. Documented my life. Made an effort. Kept a promise. To myself.
I went and met my best friend (and cousin) for coffee earlier tonight and, as always, we had a four hour conversation about our lives; struggles, opportunities, worries, joys, etc. I think the most important thing I pulled from our time together is something that I had been talking about yesterday to another friend of mine. That is, not caring how other people view your life. If they approve of it, endorse your decisions, or have an opinion at all.
Here's what makes me happy: I have finally, at 23 years old, gotten to a point in my life where I just don't care anymore. I don't care if people like the decisions I make, if my life looks perfect, if they approve of the relationship I'm in, or agree with how I spend my money. Because guess what? It's not about them. It's about me and my heart, my soul and my mind.
What makes you happy? Whatever it is, do that. Who makes you a better person, makes you love yourself and realize how fantastic you really are? Be with them. And don't you worry about what people will say. No one knows you better than you. So, in my mind, you're the most qualified individual to make a decision about your life.
I'm a very lucky, blessed person. I don't have everything I want in life, but I'm trying to get there. I have someone who understands me, puts up with my ridiculous mood swings, and loves me just because. And I wouldn't trade that for the world. I have a fantastic family that only wants the best for me. I have friends that have stuck by my side through every battle I've had to face this year, and I couldn't be more thankful.
So stop apologizing for your life. Stop saying "sorry" and "I'll change" when people tell you that you're not living your life the right way, just because you aren't living your life their way. Because whether you do things by the book, or you create your own path, people will tell you you're right, and people will tell you you're wrong. At the end of the day, you can't please everyone. So stop trying! Please you.
I know I'm in the right place, with the right people, working on achieving the goals that are important to me. And I will not apologize.